I'm not sure how I feel about this.

Yesterday we had Jayden's birthday party here at the house. For the most part everything went well, until we opened presents. Gavin was right across from Jayden and as Jayden opened gifts, Gav took them and put them in a pile. As soon as Jayden finished it turned into a crazy free for all. Jayden was occupied by THE gift that thrilled him to pieces and was playing with it and wasn't even aware of what was going on. 4 of his friends dove into his pile of stuff and started ripping and tearing everything open. Even boxes that you re-use for certain toys couldn't be re-used because they were being madly torn open right from the middle. We kept saying you need to ask Jayden if he wants you to open that. No one would listen to us and in the end almost all of his stuff was open and all over the place. They even wrecked one toy by running it over repeatedly with another toy. Fucking insanity. So after everyone leaves Jayden was kind of upset because they opened everything, mixing things and building things for him and in one case wrecking something. It felt so disrespectful, most kids left with their goody-mugs (which I was really proud of) without saying thank you or anything. Just silently putting on boots and walking out, leaving their moms to say thank you. So today we have to pull out the ruined boxes and try to match pieces with their instructions figure out how they work. I don't know about this. It makes me want to be done with the birthday parties. I felt like I put in this huge effort and was faced with kids who complained about what I had planned for them (christmas crafts for their tree's to take home), destroyed the gifts they had brought for Jayden and just ran crazy through my house for 2.5 hours. Maybe I had too many kids? There were only 9 total, so that doesn't seem right. I suppose I could be over-reacting but somehow I don't think so. What do you guys think?